She’s strong but she’s exhausted
I rarely really open up. I don’t like to feel misunderstood and as a result vulnerable however having written this post I suppose it’s no secret now that I am brutally honest and raw when it comes to writing on here.
It’s hard to accept that you cannot make someone love you and even harder to accept that the best decision you’ll ever make is to stop wanting the love of someone who does not love you.
One of the hardest pulls in life is the one between being Keith Richards or being married in Tunbridge Wells. The answer to this particular conundrum: you can be somewhere in the middle. You can have a few a drinks. Hell, you might even get drunk on the odd Saturday night. But getting pissed three times a week will have an effect on your mental health. Trust me – I’ve put the hours in on this line of research.
Lads who are texting a bunch of different girls all at the same time, do you think you’re Henry the 8th?
Don’ ever put a girl in a situateion where she’s looked at as a jokce or has other girls saying “if only she know”
A guy who resents a woman’s success or belittles her achievements is not a cool guy. Success is not a finite source in a relationship. There’s plenty for both of you to have your bit and one does not take from the other
Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect, there’s no such thing. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than ideal conditions. So what? Get started now. With each step you ill get better, more skilled, more confident and more successful.
- Share common values (not hobbies/pastimes) with partners
Careers and lives are not linear, so be open to unexpected changes.
- If everything you claim you deserve was right in front of you no, would you really be ready for it? A lot of the time we ask for things we aren’t prepared to handle, that’s why most people fumble when they get a chance at something special. We ask for consistency but don’t have the discipline to recirocate it. We ask for something real but don’t have the fainth to believe it’s not too good to be true. W
it’s easier to complain than it is to change.
Assume it was your fault; then ask how you could have made it better
Focus on getting people over their threshold resistance
The relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for the relationships you will have with everyone else.
- Things will change more radically than you can ever imagine. Things will end up three hundred miles north of your wildest predictions. Healthy people drop dead in supermarket queues. The future father of your children is that bald man on the bus. The mother of your children currently doesn’t want kids. Your secondary school maths teacher and rugby coach is now being called Susan. Everything will change. And it could happen any morning.
- When you are feeling wildly overwhelmed with everything, take a walk by the ocean, remember that if the sea can calm itself, you can certainly calm yourself.
To learn that a rich person is not the one who has the most,Â but is one who needs the least.
To learn to forgive by practicing forgiveness.